today, Tobin shared his experience during an internship he had early in his career. he explained how one doctor/mentor told him not to talk during a session and how if you talk then the session becomes your narrative, and its not your narrative. the other doctor/mentor explained the strict protocol of running through specific questions relating to different pockets of life. Tobin illustrated how that year of interning had drove him almost crazy – how having two different viewpoints chirping in his ears was unnerving and confusing. though driven mad, he said he appreciates this year in his life immensely because he was driven, finally, to push both mentors from his headspace. he realized that, in order to be successful and happy in his profession, he had to do what he felt comfortable doing. earlier in class, Tobin explained that skills are only to help you until “you” arrive. meaning, skills are important because they give you a platform and an opportunity to be present. the best thing you can do in life, though, is not only use your contrived skills, but its to “arrive” to the moment.
i havent felt present in a long time. i’ve been relying on skills (subpar ones at that) and listening to the chirping in my ears from those above and around me. and thats my problem. i used to be present and authentic, and i put my opinion above those of anyone else. and while i wasnt happy all the time, i was much more confident and sure of who i am.
i think im going to learn a lot from Tobin.